Christian weakness, capitulation and surrender on divorce

We hear a lot from conservatives who want to protect “traditional marriage” from the prospect (now the reality) of government recognizing the union of two men or two women as a marriage. But those same conservatives are willfully blind to and sometimes even supportive of something that has done much more to destroy the institution of marriage than homosexual marriage ever will. That is the scourge of no-fault divorce.

What is most distressing is how the church – despite the very clear teaching of Jesus Christ on the subject of divorce – has utterly abandoned Biblical doctrine on the subject of divorce. Not only do you never hear sermons about the Bible’s clear teaching on divorce in the vast majority of churches, but many of those churches actually endorse what Jesus Christ Himself described as adultery by performing marriage ceremonies for people who have divorced their spouses without Biblical justification. They are not just silent. They are in open rebellion against Scripture.

Is it any wonder why non-believers see this hypocrisy as a stain on Christianity itself? Is it any wonder why even some Christians become discouraged and abandon the local church due to the hypocrisy?

But aren’t there some Biblical justifications for divorce?

Yes. But when the foundation of such an important truth has been destroyed, it is not appropriate or helpful to start covering the exceptions to the rule. What the church needs to do is reaffirm God’s clear statement in Malachi 2:16 that He hates divorce. We need to rebuild the foundation that has been destroyed through decades of compromise with sin and open rebellion against God’s word that has corrupted the church. Only after we have rebuilt the doctrinal foundation should we start talking about exceptions.

So what can individual Christians do to be faithful to God’s Word on the subject of divorce? We should rebuke, exhort and encourage our pastors and elders to not compromise and take a stand against this sin. If a church will not repent, leave that church and find one that honors God’s Word. Churches will be more likely to repent if their congregations hold them accountable. Most importantly, we should pray for compromisers and rebels to repent of their sin.

6 thoughts on “Christian weakness, capitulation and surrender on divorce

  1. Not to mention pervasive ignorance and heedlessness of “God's laws” on tattoos, haircuts and shaves, proper handling of “unclean” menstruating women, etc. Xians are basically clueless about their “good book” filled with rules to live by.


  2. 1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving departeth, let him depart: the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us in peace.

    #1 A spouse that files for and demands a “no-fault” divorce has more/less proven themselves to be an unbeliever and that particular individual should be the sole focus of your criticism and / or excommunication. The very act of doing such a thing is an “un-Christian” act.

    #2 The spouse that is NOT filing for and NOT demanding a divorce is actually doing and acting out scripture and playing the proper Christian role by “letting the unbeliever depart”, the bible tells us that this “brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us in peace” and therefore this individual should not live in condemnation by or from the church. Period.

    #3 It is wholly un-Christian and a wicked act for us who call ourselves Christians or as the church to criticize the spouse who had the no-fault divorce forced upon them against their will and by an un-Christian / unbelieving spouse.

    #4 Any preacher or any church that condemns or insists that the spouse “who let the unbeliever go” is still under bondage or somehow married to the unbeliever… the pastor or church are themselves in REBELLION to God's word which was made flesh in Christ. Thus they deny Christ because they deny the words of 1 Cor 7:15 and are as a church of witches and filth.

    This is why the modern churches are like unto a place of the dead, reborn as the synagog of old, void of Christ.

    1 Samuel 15:23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as idolatry and teraphim. Because thou hast rejected the word of Jehovah, he hath also rejected thee from being king.

    As such the churches have become places of captivity…

    Isaiah 5:13 Therefore my people are gone into captivity for lack of knowledge; and their honorable men are famished, and their multitude are parched with thirst.

    The many false churches are like sepulchers, the churches are dead because of lack of knowledge and they are void of discernment.

    The churches condemn the righteous man because the unbelieving divorced him against his will.

    Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I also will forget thy children.

    Their pastors and elders preach another gospel.

    Hosea 6:9 And as troops of robbers wait for a man, so the company of priests murder in the way toward Shechem; yea, they have committed lewdness.

    2 Corinthians 11:4 For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we did not preach, or if ye receive a different spirit, which ye did not receive, or a different gospel, which ye did not accept, ye do well to bear with him.



    2 Peter 2:17-19 American Standard Version (ASV)

    17 These are springs without water, and mists driven by a storm; for whom the blackness of darkness hath been reserved.

    18 For, uttering great swelling words of vanity, they entice in the lusts of the flesh, by lasciviousness, those who are just escaping from them that live in error;

    19 promising them liberty, while they themselves are bondservants of corruption; for of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he also brought into bondage.

    Be very careful not to preach rebellion to God's word. It is the very thing that defines a witch.


  3. I didn't say anything about a spouse abandoned by an unbeliever. And I doubt there are very many churches that do as you describe.

    The rebellion of the church today is not refusing to allow for the very limited exceptions allowed in Scripture. The rebellion of the church is abandoning the general prohibition on divorce.

    Before we can build a door or a window, we need a building. And right now we don't even have a foundation.


  4. Fair enough.

    However marriage is NOT a foundation, nor is it a foundational Christian principle. But we do have a foundation. It is build upon a rock that is a corner stone. That Rock was Christ. For those who forget God this Rock is become “a stone of stumbling, and a rock of offence, even to them which stumble at the word, being disobedient: whereunto also they were appointed”.

    Bottom line it is not about marriage (or divorce), it is merely the consequence of forgetting and turning away from God.

    Yes the churches have turned away. Divorce is merely an effect, a symptom of a people that forgot their God. He is the foundation that was forgotten.

    To blame divorce only adds insult to injury.

    Adultery and whoredom in the Book of Hosea is to us an example of our IDOLATRY towards GOD! Please read Hosea. God uses this sin to show us our larger sin which is to forget our God! IDOLATRY in the church is the root problem!

    I will leave the rest to your own reading and interpretation…

    1 Peter 2:5-8

    5 Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.

    6 Wherefore also it is contained in the scripture, Behold, I lay in Sion a chief corner stone, elect, precious: and he that believeth on him shall not be confounded.

    7 Unto you therefore which believe he is precious: but unto them which be disobedient, the stone which the builders disallowed, the same is made the head of the corner,

    8 And a stone of stumbling, and a rock of offence, even to them which stumble at the word, being disobedient: whereunto also they were appointed.

    1 Corinthians 10:3-5

    3 And did all eat the same spiritual meat;

    4 And did all drink the same spiritual drink: for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them: and that Rock was Christ.

    5 But with many of them God was not well pleased: for they were overthrown in the wilderness.

    Job 38:2-13

    2 Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge?

    3 Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me.

    4 Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding.

    5 Who hath laid the measures thereof, if thou knowest? or who hath stretched the line upon it?

    6 Whereupon are the foundations thereof fastened? or who laid the corner stone thereof;

    7 When the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy?

    8 Or who shut up the sea with doors, when it brake forth, as if it had issued out of the womb?

    9 When I made the cloud the garment thereof, and thick darkness a swaddlingband for it,

    10 And brake up for it my decreed place, and set bars and doors,

    11 And said, Hitherto shalt thou come, but no further: and here shall thy proud waves be stayed?

    12 Hast thou commanded the morning since thy days; and caused the dayspring to know his place;

    13 That it might take hold of the ends of the earth, that the wicked might be shaken out of it?


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